Joachim bought Alexandra a house 10 years ago and doesn't he also pay the normal alimony? I don't see why he should pay her anything else.
The last bit in your post....
Sorry but are you serious?
J&M moved to Cph almost a year ago. So far, it doesn't show in the official calendar. I doubt he will be blamed for all and everything going wrong in the world if they start to be seen more in public.
I am.
I do believe if he wish to remain an active member of the DRF with apanage and all, that he should step up his workload - and soon.
Let there be no doubt about that.
But I won't knock him on the head if he decides to pull the plug and opt out of the DRF as a working member.
If you face a physical obstacle you have a number of options:
A) Climb the thing.
B) Find a way around.
C) Climb the thing and die trying.
D) Give up.
With people it's even harder. Because if people have decided they don't like you, the obstacle can be almost insurmountable.
And that's Joachim's main problem. He is not folksy, he lacks people skills and people have decided they don't like him.
But keep in mind that while Frederik was in Greenland finding himself and finding a meaning with his future as king and not least finding Mary. (And fortunately he did! On all three counts. For Frederik as well as Denmark. Or we would very well have had an unhappy Crown Prince by now).
While that went on, Joachim was working on a pretty derelict estate, while also taking part in official functions and travels. He was raising a family and trying to mend a marriage that for whatever reasons was creaking in the seems. Not getting much help from Alexandra BTW, because she's a city-person and Schackenborg is about as far from the city as you can possibly get here in DK, unless you move to a very small island.
Then his marriage failed. It could happen to anyone, but Joachim got all the blame.
He had to pay big time to his ex-wife. That wouldn't exactly have helped his finances in running the estate on top of all the other worries and the feeling of failure he must have had.
Yet, he still went out and did his duty.
Has that been acknowledged? Not much.
Because many people have decided they do not like Joachim.
So why not say goodbye and move to France?